I know some people who not only did not take their husband's last name, but also made it so that the kids didn't carry their dad's last name. In this regad, Sam is definitely not one of those open minded men. One conversation we had long ago I half joked and asked if I could keep my own name- rather than his family name which is hard to say (it means bush in French). Needless to say, he wasn't too happy about it. I bowed out easy out of that and said I would take his name. It's a relatively small thing.
I'm not quite sure about why he- and a lot of other men are very sensitive about it. I guess they just get some pride in spreading their name around. If I were a guy I don't think I'd really care that much. I guess I'm just used to living and being simple and naive in so many ways. Sometimes I'm surprised at how guys react to certain things. Maybe I'm just simple. Maybe I'm just naive or down right stupid. I'll let things go quite easily though. Imagine saying, "We cancelled our 3 year engagement because she didn't want to take on my name". Doesn't say too much about our relationship.
So what's in the name? Is it just some people who go through this or is this more or less common these days? Did you have arguments or at least disagreements about this topic?
I think the point in taking your husband's name is that it unites you as one household (one name, one family) and the reason it's the husbands name as oppose to the wife's, is that the husband is the head of the household. That being said, I didn't have any qualms about taking my husband's name, since it's a very nice sounding name. I think there can be a lot in a name, and I would have probably taken it even if it was awful.
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